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Bespoke.love
Private Intimacy Advisory for Exceptional Individuals & Couples
Sex . Communication . Mutual Pleasure . Relational Architecture
For those who refuse mediocrity in intimacy.
What This Is
This is a private, interview-based advisory for individuals and couples who want measurable excellence in intimacy.
Common Areas of Focus:
- Confident sexual performance
- Extraordinary mutual pleasure
- Effortless intimate communication
- Secure emotional connection
- Nervous system regulation through intimacy
- Restored erotic magnetism
- Deep trust & lasting partnership
Private. Personalized. Measurable.
Areas of Engagement
Restoration
For individuals and couples facing challenges that are limiting intimacy, pleasure, connection, or confidence.
They seek lasting confidence, deeper connection, and fulfilling intimacy through bespoke guidance designed exclusively for them.
Clinically informed. Real-world tested.
Optimization
For individuals and couples whose intimacy and relationship are already strong, but who know there is another level to discover.
They seek deeper pleasure, greater passion, and exceptional intimacy through private guidance tailored to their highest potential.
Designed for those who refuse to stop growing.
Both
For individuals and couples who want to overcome challenges while expanding into what is possible.
They seek deeper confidence, greater pleasure, and exceptional intimacy through a private engagement built entirely around them.
The complete path to exceptional intimacy.
Which pathway fits you?
The Difference
We don't just teach transformation. We live it.
As partners in life and in our work, we embody the principles we share-bringing decades of experience, clinical insight, and real-world practice into every engagement.
Every path is bespoke. Every recommendation is intentional. Every step is designed around your unique goals, relationship, and potential.
Embodied
Our relationship is our foundation.
We embody the practices, the connection, and the results-every day.
Precision
We listen deeply, assess precisely, and design a path that fits you-not a one-size-fits-all approach.
Evidence-Informed
Our work is grounded in science, refined through thousands of hours of practice, and proven in real lives.
Private Advisory Options
Delivery Formats
Private, high-touch formats designed to meet you where you are and take you further.
Discreet Evaluation Session
A private conversation to explore your goals, challenges, and fit.
Online Private Coaching
Personalized, ongoing 1:1 or couples coaching from anywhere in the world.
Multi-day In-Person Intensives
Immersive, in-person experiences for accelerated transformation and deeper integration.
Live-In Immersions
Live together with Aaron Michael & Dr. Saida Desilets for profound, hands-on transformation.
Annual Advisory Retainers
Ongoing private access and strategic guidance throughout the year.
Extended Multi-Year Contracts (By Invitation)
Long-term, high-level partnership for those committed to lasting transformation and leadership.
All engagements are interview-based and selectively offered.
No pricing listed publicly.
The Architecture
The Architecture of Transformation
The transformations you’ve seen are not accidental. They are the result of a rigorous, embodied methodology that integrates anatomy, nervous system regulation, psychosexual pattern recognition, and experiential practice.
Every bespoke engagement follows this architecture, adapted uniquely to you.
01
Comprehensive Sexual & Relational Assessment
We begin by understanding your history, desires, challenges, and the dynamics of your relationship.
02
Nervous System & Attachment Mapping
We identify how your nervous system responds to intimacy, safety, connection, and arousal.
03
Psychosexual Pattern Recognition
We uncover the unconscious habits, beliefs, and protections
shaping your pleasure, performance, and connection.
04
Mechanical Recalibration
We optimize movement, anatomy, timing, and responsiveness to create effortless, sustainable pleasure.
05
Embodied Practice & Integration
You learn through guided, experiential practice that creates new pathways in body, mind, and nervous system.
06
Feedback Loops & Refinement
We fine-tune every element based on real experiences, ensuring your transformation is precise and lasting.
07
Long-Term Integration & Expansion
We ensure your new patterns become your new normal-so transformation continues to deepen over time.
Integrative Sexual Wellness
A Collaborative Concierge Medicine Model for Optimizing Sexual Function and Enhancing Intimacy
- Peer-Reviewed
- 52 Pages
- Published 2025
Clinical Authority
- 55+ years of combined professional experience
- Thousands of private clients served worldwide
- Trusted by CEOs, physicians, founders, public figures, and high-performing couples
- Peer-reviewed research and clinically informed methodologies
- Multidisciplinary expertise spanning psychology, biomechanics, nervous system science, and embodied intimacy
Where science, lived experience, and embodied practice converge.
The Transformation
What Changes
- Greater sexual confidence
- More stable arousal and presence
- Expanded orgasmic capacity
- Clearer erotic communication
- Deeper trust and emotional safety
- Renewed erotic magnetism
- Stronger devotion
- Lasting desire
This is not only about resolving what limits intimacy. It is about elevating desire, pleasure, and connection to match the life you've already built.
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Questions Before You Apply
Clarity creates confidence. These are the most common questions we receive from individuals and couples considering bespoke coaching.
01 | What is Suction Sex® in one sentence?
Suction Sex® is a method for penetrative mutual pleasure that replaces friction-based performance with coordinated anatomy, nervous system awareness, active receiving, adaptive giving, and embodied communication.
02 | Who is bespoke coaching for?
Bespoke coaching is for individuals and couples who want private, highly personalized support to transform intimacy, pleasure, performance, connection, or long-standing sexual patterns.
03 | Is this therapy?
No. This is not psychotherapy or medical treatment. It is private sexual wellness education and coaching. When therapeutic or medical support is needed, we refer appropriately.
04 | Is this Tantra?
No. While some clients may have spiritual or energetic experiences, this work is not tantra. It is a structured, anatomy-informed, nervous-system-aware, embodied method for intimacy and sexual mastery.
05 | How is this different from sex therapy or coaching?
Most sex therapy focuses on talking, insight, and emotional processing. Most coaching focuses on advice or technique. This work integrates embodied practice, anatomy, nervous system regulation, relational dynamics, and real-time refinement.
06 | How does it differ from friction-based sex?
Friction-based sex relies primarily on repetitive thrusting and stimulation. Suction Sex® generates sensation through coordinated suction created by both partners, using synchronized movement, relaxation, responsiveness, and embodied communication to create deeper, more mutual, and more sustainable pleasure.
07 | How do I get started?
Begin by requesting a Confidential Consultation. This is a private assessment session. Together, we clarify your goals, uncover what may be limiting your current experience, answer your questions, and determine whether a bespoke engagement is appropriate.
Featured Story
Dimitra's Journey
After years of chronic pain and uncertainty, Dimitra found not just relief – but a deeper connection to her body, her partner, and her vitality.
I finally feel free in my body. My pain is gone, my cycles are pain-free, and our intimacy has never been better.
DIMITRA
"This work changed everything. I feel connected to myself in a way I never thought possible."
DIMITRA
More Stories from Private Clients
Real Stories. Profound Transformations.
From individuals and couples who chose bespoke, in-person coaching to create meaningful shifts in intimacy, connection, and well-being.
John Wineland
Reclaiming vitality, purpose,
and deeper connection.
Doug & Rachel Abrams
Our relationship has never
been more vibrant.
Andrew & Isabel Mioch
We discovered a new level of intimacy we didn’t know existed.
Laurence
A complete transformation in confidence and presence.
Louise
I feel more connected to myself and my partner than ever.
Amanda & Mark Testa
Deepening our bond and rediscovering the spark in our connection.
Letters from Private Clients
Reflections from Real Journeys of Transformation
These are personal letters from individuals and couples who chose private, in-person coaching to create profound shifts in their intimacy, connection, and well-being.
A Letter from A Private Client
"I discovered Aaron Michael's uniquely powerful work in the sexual arts through my fiancée..."
Entering my 40s, I found that my previous relationship to sex no longer felt good, and I felt at a loss for how to evolve, especially given the high bar my fiancee set for our sexual growth.
I felt stuck. I was done with my old ways but deeply wanted to maintain a joyful, passionate, and erotic life with my fiancée. However, I didn’t know where to turn for guidance and felt a significant blow to my pride in asking for help.
A Letter from A Private Client
"To all those who are curious about this journey,"
My wife and I have been together for 26 years, and with our children grown, we chose to turn our focus back to each other and our relationship. We’ve always enjoyed a healthy sex life, but we wanted to take it from good to extraordinary.
Over the past three years, we’ve immersed ourselves in retreats, live and virtual courses, and self-study programs. At times, our training has been back-to-back, even overlapping, and we’ve invested far more time and resources than we ever imagined. Yet every step
has been worth it…
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By Invitation.
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Private guidance.
For those committed to extraordinary intimacy.
Bespoke.love
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Embodied Love®
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Created by Aaron Michael and Dr. Saida.
Exclusively taught through Embodied Love University.
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